In my eyes
April 7, 2020
Dear folks. Today I would like to share with you my thoughts on the topic: How disabled people want to be perceived. As an employee of our foundation, but above all a person who underwent head surgery 10 years ago in connection with a serious threat (which fortunately turned out to be benign!) - that is, the cancer of glial (nutritional) cerebellum cells I have a kind of "mandate" for that. Every brain surgery (if we are not talking about so-called "peripheral" changes) leaves some neurological defect. It is larger the more extensive the surgical intervention is, and the change is more "widespread". I had a lot ... some will say luck, I will say that the hands of the scalpel operator were led by God. I "slipped" with slightly damaged right side of the body. It manifests mainly in the right hand, the so-called An awkwardness, or loss of precision. As a right-handed person, at the beginning I had a problem with adapting to the new reality in which I wanted not to be found. Daily activities at the beginning were very difficult, and many things just annoyed me. Why? Imagine that all your life you brush your teeth with your right hand, and now you suddenly have to, you can't learn to do this with your left hand. It raises a lot of frustration, and intrusive questions circulate in my head. Why me? After all, I wrote with my right hand, how will I do the left job now? In such situations, our well-being is extremely reduced, and the fear that arises intensifies everything. Summing up the questions, we get one thing. How will I manage now? And many disabled people are struggling with this question. Many of them are afraid of this fear so close that they are unable to break it and go out into the "world", also at work.
Working with a disabled person
Those people, however, who managed to overcome their fear overcame many barriers and put a lot of work into adapting and more professionally compensating their "beauty". To a much greater extent than a healthy person they know how to "make up" for certain shortcomings. They want to be treated normally as long as they are able to do the work themselves. If they need help, they'll ask for it themselves. They will ask more openly if they feel trust and respect. That's how it works for everyone right? Dear employers, colleagues of people with various cavities. You don't have to "jump" over such people. Even a cat can be patted. As a long-time Judo player, from the time before what happened to me, in my club where I was training, we had a quote (of course he was referring to heavy training), which I think fits today's topic.
I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself.D. H. Lawrence